leading change: a society free from alcohol harm

Dawn

Life experience has taught me that the alcohol dependency of a parent is not something I am ashamed of at the current age of forty one.It is also something I have minimal control over. I can only support that parent to make good decisions.  I can encourage that parent to strive for optimal quality of life by making positive choices.

As a child, however, my insight was not mature enough to deal with parental alchohol dependency with these beliefs and coping strategies.  As a child, the gradual awareness at age seven that this was a significant part of my life, filled my daily world full of worry, shame and fear.  A feeling of accountability remains with me to this day.

Through life experience, I have learned that excess offers of support can have negative consequences for my quality of life and those of my children and husband.  However, I refuse to let alcohol dependency of one parent to negatively impact another generation.  My long-term coping strategies are to set boundaries on the amount of support I provide to that parent. It is equally important to ensure all my dependents are given due attention for everyone’s’ health and well-being.

In my professional work, I have recently seen HSE guidelines for parents to manage alcohol and children/teenagers.  I would like to see readily available resources like coping strategies for children dealing with parental alcohol dependency.

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